穩固家庭關系的8個秘訣

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  Researchers at Australia's University of Newcastle surveyed more than 600 members of close families about their values and attitudes, isolating eight key characteristics from responses.
  1. Communication. The best type of communication in families is positive, open, honest and, in some cases, laced with humour.
  " We share a freedom to discuss anything that comes our way, whether it be a worry or joy. "
  2. Togetherness. Strong families share an"invisible glue, "giving them a firm sense of belonging.
  "When someone in our family has a problem, we pull together to find the solution. "
  3. Sharing activities. Strong families choose to play together.
  " Over the years we have done skating, camping,walking, swimming, etc. We believe this is helping our children catch the idea of strong family bonds. "
  4. Affection. Members regularly show each other their care.
  "Affection is simple stuff, like a cuddle in the morning, or just a pat on the head... a question about how things are going... and being genuinely interested in the answer. "
  5. Support. They are comfortable offering or seeking support.
  "Being a strong family unit means if one of the family has a challenge, there are many family members to listen, advise and support. "
  6. Acceptance. Members value, acknowledge and tolerate each other.
  "We see each other as individuals,and respect and celebrate our differences."
  7. Commitment. The wellbeing of the family is a high priority.
  "Commitment is to stand finn regardless of the situation."
  8. Resilience. Reacting to challenges in a positive way is essential.
  " We have encountered several trying situations that have had the capability of tearing us apart,but which have in fact bonded us together. "
  澳大利亞紐卡斯爾大學的研究人員對一些家庭關系密切的600個成員進行了關于價值觀念、人生態度的調查,并從中歸納出了8點他們共有的特征:
  1.加強交流。最理想的家庭交流類型是屬于那種積極開放、開誠布公型的,有時也不妨添上點幽默色彩。
  “生活中發生的任何事我們大家都享有參加討論的自由,無論是煩惱還是快樂。”
  2.團結無間。穩固的家庭關系中有一種“無形的凝聚力”,它使每個人都感受到一種強烈的歸屬感。
  “家庭中某一成員有了困難,我們大家都會同心協力找出解決的辦法。”
  3.共同參與。穩固的家庭往往選擇一同娛樂。
  “多年來我們都是一起滑冰,一起露營,一起散步,一起游泳等。我們認為這有助于讓孩子們體會到家庭中強烈的紐帶關系。”
  4.真誠關愛。家庭成員之間要經常互相表達各自的關切之情。
  “關懷可以以簡單的方式來表達:如清晨的一下擁抱,在頭上輕拍一下……,關心一下事情進展得如何……,對于對方的回答表現出發自內心的真誠的興趣。”
  5.互相支持。穩固的家庭中給予或尋求支持是一種十分自然的事情。
  “穩固的家庭意味著,如果一個家庭成員遇到了難題,其他成員都會認真傾聽,并給予忠告和支持。”
  6.承認接受。家庭成員間互相尊重、認可和寬容。
  “我們將家庭成員中的每一個人視為一個獨立的個體,對于我們之間的差別采取尊重和贊賞的態度。”
  7.責無旁貸。家庭的利益放在第一位。
  “無論在怎樣的情況下,都要堅決履行對家庭的責任。”
  8.開朗達觀。對于困難和挑戰持積極態度是最重要的。
  “我們曾遇見幾次重大的考驗,使家庭幾乎破裂,但事實上反而使我們緊相連了。”
英語知識大連G381中學外語教與學Claire Colvin20032003方陵生The Secrets of Strong Families 作者:英語知識大連G381中學外語教與學Claire Colvin20032003

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